By Tom Quiner
Should human dignity be defined by an individual’s desires?
I hope not. If you’re like me, not all of your desires are noble and dignified. I read Dear Abby today and was struck by the undignified subject matter. A happily married woman (“Bi in the Deep South”) realized that she is also sexually attracted to women.
She felt a need to “come out” and publicly proclaim her newfound desires on Facebook.
Abby wasn’t too keen on the idea in her initial response. But readers pushed back, as did this husband who defended his wife, who is also bisexual:
“Some individuals feel that “bisexual” is who they are, and to omit it feels like living a lie.”
Another person agreed:
“If “Bi in the Deep South” is comfortable enough with who she is to tell someone, she should not be advised to stay in the closet to any degree. She has the right to be honest with herself and her family and not go through life hiding.”
I humbly suggest that keeping one’s desires to one’s self is not called “living a lie” or “hiding,” it’s called being discreet.
These modern exhibitionists who feel a need to parade in front of the world every urge lurking in their groins are selling themselves short.
We are so much more than our urges.
I submit that we are better off to define our lives by the discipline (also known as prudence) in which we live; by the justice we exhibit to others; by the temperance of our urges (as opposed to letting our urges define our lives); and by living a life of courage.
That is so much nobler than publicly proclaiming your sexual urges, don’t you think?
I submit that it is nobler to define our short life in this world by living lives of faith, hope, and charity.
I would suggest that living a life of chastity is ultimately more fulfilling than living one of promiscuity.
These modern exhibitionists diminish themselves by placing their desires ahead of virtue.