By Tom Quiner

The day is coming.

The culture is demanding that Catholics shed their faith and bend to the homosexual lobby that now controls the Democratic Party. For example, what happens if a Catholic is invited to a so-called gay wedding? To decline opens you up to being called a bigot, a hater, a homophobe or worse by the judgmental mob on the left.

Writing in the National Review, catholic commentator, Maggie Gallagher, provides this thoughtful, charitable response:

‘Here’s what I think.

We are born male and female, and marriage is the union of husband to wife that celebrates the necessity of the two genders’ coming together to make the future happen.

I know you don’t think that.

I know the law no longer thinks that. But I have staked my life on this truth.

The problem for me in celebrating your gay wedding, as much as I love you, is that I would be witnessing and celebrating your attempt not only to commit yourself to a relationship that keeps you from God’s plan but, worse, I would be witnessing and celebrating your attempt to hold the man you love to a vow that he will avoid God’s plan.

To vow oneself to sin is one thing, to try to hold someone you love to it — that’s not something I can celebrate. And I would be party to the idea that two men can make a marriage, which I do not believe.

On your happy day you should be surrounded by people who can honor your vow and help you keep it.

I can’t do that.

“Porneia” is a word in the Bible that has been much mistranslated. But I think it means a sexual relationship that cannot by its nature become a marriage. That’s why Christ said that marriage is forever, unless it is porneia.

I understand that you might well want to rupture our friendship over this, my honest view. I choose to love you both and keep you in my life. But let us somehow against all odds find a way to love each other as we are, and not how each of us would wish the other to be.”

2 Comments

  1. Corvus (Corvi) Black on April 18, 2015 at 10:09 pm

    It depends on the Catholic and if they feel personally conflicted. I agree, if you feel conflicted then politely decline.

  2. Shawn Pavlik on April 21, 2015 at 9:41 am

    This seems to be a reasonable reply, and reinforces that she still loves her friends.

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