By Tom Quiner
The young woman said she had never really been attracted to other women.
But when she was in college, she was seduced by another woman and decided she was gay.
In other words, she wasn’t born gay. I heard her candid story on a radio talk show as she defended the gay lifestyle.
I mention the story in light of my post yesterday which defended the right of gay people to pursue therapies that can cure unhealthy same-sex attractions.
A Quiner’s Diner reader responded that people are “born that way.”
In the case of the woman above, that wasn’t the case.
On the other hand, I know someone with a child who is openly gay. They acknowledge that, indeed, it seems their child was born that way, that he exhibited behavior at a very early age that pointed toward same-sex attractions.
On the other hand, actress Anne Heche thought she was a lesbian and was involved in a public relationship with lesbian comedian Ellen Degeneres. Ms. Heche eventually left Ms. Degeneres, married a man, and had a family with him.
In an interview with Barbara Walters, she disclosed that she had been repeatedly molested by her father as a child and has had a lifelong battle with mental illness.
In her case, she wasn’t born gay, her unhealthy upbringing may have had an affect on her sexuality as well as her emotional health.
Chris Christie signed into a law a bill which would have prevented a disturbed, teenaged Anne Heche from pursuing therapy to sort out her confusion … IF the treatment involved any sort of sexual identity conversion therapy.
On the other hand, a young woman today interested in pursuing her lesbian identity would be allowed to seek therapy to help her along the way to a lesbian lifestyle, even if her parents objected.
If she lived in California, she could even undergo hormone therapy to change her gender if she felt she was a boy born in a girl’s body. But the state of California, like New Jersey, would refuse to allow her to seek therapy to undo same-sex attractions if she thought they were unhealthy.
Are some people born with same-sex attractions? Most certainly.
Are all? Certainly not.
Two researchers studied twins looking for genetic similarities regarding sexual orientation. Peter Bearman and Hannah Brückner, from Columbia and Yale respectively, studied data from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health. The hypothesis is that if one identical twin is gay, so will be the other, if in fact, same-sex attractions are somehow genetic, somehow imbedded in the DNA.
It turns out the concordance rate is very low, just 6.7% for males and 5.3% for females. These Ivy League researchers determined that social experiences played a larger role in influencing sexuality.
Some, maybe most, people with same-sex attractions AREN’t born that way.
What is disturbing is the high incidence of emotional fragility in the gay population. Studies have shown gay men have five times the level of mental health problems as straight men, and that lesbian women have double the rate as heterosexual women.
If people aren’t born gay, and if they are battling the mental health problems that seem associated with the gay lifestyle, why would the government prevent them from seeking safe therapies to help them to heal their wounded sexuality?
I know, I know, it is politically incorrect to suggest that the gay lifestyle is anything but the equal to the married, heterosexual lifestyle. That is what the liberals tell us.
In the meantime, decent people who are fighting desires they find destructive are systematically being denied the right to seek reparative therapies in California and New Jersey. They gay lobby is pushing this agenda across the land.
Let’s push back. Let us stand firm for our friends and family fighting unwanted attractions who seek help. Let us support free choice for these walking wounded.