By Tom Quiner

I love women.
For some reason, God has blessed me with an abundance of great women in my life, including my great wife, my Mom, my Mother-in-law, my sister, and so many other friends and family. (Some of you may be reading this post.)
[God has also blessed me with an abundance of great men in life. More on that another day.]
Sadly, our social and political cultures are hard at work eroding the dignity of women. Here is what is happening: women are being conditioned to believe that their worth, their very dignity, is predicated on sex.
Madonna, Britney Spears, Katy Perry build their “brand”  with sex. Paris Hilton built her “brand” with a sex tape. Miley Cyrus is following their leads, jettisoning her Disney persona and replacing it with a slut persona. It is really painful to watch.
We’re seeing equally bad decisions being made by regular young women, influenced as they are by sexy female celebrities who are all about sex.
I keep my finger on the pulse of the culture by reading advice columnists like “Dear Abby.” Today’s letter is fairly typical:

“Dear Abby: I met the most wonderful man on a dating site. We seemed to hit it off. In fact, we are falling in love with each other. But he isn’t ready for an exclusive relationship and still wants to date.
He gets on the dating sites when I’m asleep in his bed. He has told me he loves me, but right now he just wants to be friends. He says I should also date, but how do you turn off love?”

Let me recap the sad state of affairs: the young lass sleeps with her boyfriend. To her this is love and commitment. To him, it is sex, and he wants even more of it from other women, thus his interest in dating sites. There is no commitment.
The young lady has been duped into believing that it is necessary for her to give away something that is precious: sexual intimacy. Why not? Society’s role models for these girls do the same thing, and they’re rich and famous.
I offer timeless advice to these girls: save yourself for marriage. You’re worth it. If your young man won’t wait, he’s not.

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  1. Jeane on May 29, 2014 at 8:09 am

    Hi Tom,
    All comes back to this (below)….from an article by Fr. Paul Marx OSB.
    On July 25, 1968, Pope Paul VI’s Humanae Vitae re-affirmed the Catholic teaching on life, love and human sexuality. In that document, he listed the consequences of life lived outside Catholic teaching.
    He predicted that:
    1. Contraception would lead to conjugal infidelity.
    2. Contraceptive practice would lead to a “general lowering of morality.”
    3. Contraception would lead men to cease respecting woman in their totality and would cause them to treat women as “mere instruments of selfish enjoyment” rather than as cherished partners.
    4. And finally, widespread acceptance of contraception by couples would lead to a massive imposition of contraception by unscrupulous governments.
    In other words, Pope Paul VI predicted that contraception would evolve from “a lifestyle choice” into a weapon of mass destruction. How dreadfully his prophecy has been vindicated by population control and coercive sterilization programs, fertility reduction quotas and the promotion of abortion literally everywhere in the world.
    Contraception’s destruction of the integrity of the marital act—as unitive and procreative—has dire consequences for society and for our souls. Contraception, in other words, is a rejection of God’s view of reality. It is a wedge driven into the most intimate sphere of communion known to man outside of the Holy Sacrament of the Mass. It is a degrading poison that withers life and love both in marriage and in society.
    By breaking the natural and divinely ordained connection between sex and procreation, women and men—but especially men—would focus on the hedonistic possibilities of sex. People would cease seeing sex as something that was intrinsically linked to new life and to the sacrament of marriage.
    Does anyone doubt that this is where we find ourselves today?

    • quinersdiner on May 29, 2014 at 8:53 am

      No, there is no doubt that is where we find ourselves. Your response is eloquent, thanks for writing, Jeane.

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